Saturday, November 28, 2015

Left

I did not know Sylvester Stalone wrote the screen play for Rocky... that's pretty amazing.

Ways to know you are the mother of a teenage boy... he buys his own car then proceeds to continue shopping for cars to buy for parts....

Hubs and I watched Left Behind last night. Not bad. Not great, acting left some to be desired. I hope they continue to make the rest of the books but I doubt they do.

Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is many things to many people and I'm sure not all are as rosey as mine. Yesterday as we left our home we drove past families out swinging golf clubs together toward the field across from their farmhouse. Harbor was in the back seat and nearly jumped out of the moving vehicle because he brought a spider in with the mail to sort through. We drove to Bentonville, Ohio to John's cousin's on his mother's side. We walked in not knowing many names and many of the faces not knowing ours. Over 40 people gathered and we ate and talked and sat and napped. John's dad brought the guns, a 22 handgun, 22 rifle, 223 rifle, and we shot at bottles, cans and blew something up. It was quite nice

Friday, November 13, 2015

MIndset

Mindset- I've joined an online book discussion and I wanted to save my thoughts...

Hi there! I'm late to the game. I'm DaShannon Lovin, librarian at Blanchester High School. I work with Stephenie Eriksson, English teacher at BHS, also in this group. I've taken some OWP classes and really enjoyed the experience. I have a son who is a junior and my husband teaches math here at the high school. Chris, The Nightingale is one of our reads for our Staff and Friends Book Club so I hope its a good one! Katie, Boys in the Boat is also on our list. Taylor, Fannie Flagg's Daisy Faye and the Miracle Man is my favorite book of all time. Actually it is hard not to comment on what everyone has read but I need to just stop :) I'm reading Brave New World for a student book club that meets Friday and I just finished The Bell Jar for a classics club. Club meetings keep me on track reading about a book a week to discuss. I've just started Mindset and I'm loving it. 

I am definitely the growth mindset with purposeful engagement. I've always been a good student with a passion for learning but I've never felt 'gifted' so I work really hard to improve. I'm goal setter and a list maker always trying to simplify or streamline a process.
The idea that depending on the situation I might be more fixed than growth mindset is intriguing. Reading the book on my own I wouldn't think so but after listening to the discussion I can see that. Math- I feel like I just wasn't born with it, reached my  (low) potential early and now I'm thankful my life and job allow me to use a calculator and ask my math guys for help. But if I practiced might it change? Maybe I just don't like it therefore I'm not interested in growing.
The idea that fixed mindsets are supersensitive and worry about what others judge us to be, well, I feel that but I still just don't feel like I've ever been in the fixed mindset. Growing up feeling like I came from undereducated parents who were from the hills of Kentucky I was afraid of people judging me so I kept quiet and tried to fake my way until I could catch up to where I thought others were. But I always felt like I could improve, that I would overcome what my background had provided. I don't know that I considered genetics or a fixed IQ.
Teaching in high school now I find it interesting that our students have been grouped and labeled coming up in elementary school but then we give them more choices when they get here. If they can get the grade we will allow them to move into honors classes. They can enroll in dual credit or College Credit Plus as long as they take a placement test. More students see college as a possibility.
It's funny how our personal experiences come to mind when we are trying to decide what we want to 'buy' that this author is 'selling'. When I moved back to Ohio, for some reason, this school had a much older teacher population. Smart, funny, savvy and experienced, I found them very intimidating. I go used to being made fun of (in a good way) or taking advice on my teaching, speaking and writing. I learned very quickly that they weren't judging me. We were just doing life together. These people became my life long friends. I became much more open to just putting myself out there, making mistakes and admitting upfront when I had no idea what was going on. It has made me a much better person.

I remember being placed in the advanced readers group in the 3rd grade. I know there was a label (color/animal) but, whatever, you knew which group/level you were anyway. Kids would be moved 'up' or 'down'. From then on I knew I was expected to be above average in school so I strived to prove that. I also think have a sister 3 years ahead of me in school and the fact that she hated school and struggled to fit in from day 1 played into my thinking and my parents thinking about what = success in school. My sister is now a very successful special ed teacher who makes a ridiculous difference in the lives of her students struggling through school.
Now, as a mother, I find it interesting that my son's intellect has been measured more by how well he performs on tests. From early on his teachers, administrators, and, admittedly, his parents have openly talked about how well he performs in front of him. And about the expectation of getting the scores that will = $$ for college and/or recognition for his schools. This is a toughy to read and sort out. I want him to live up to or perform according to his potential yet the pressure has increased with the stakes and I'm uncomfortable with that. I've always told him he was born with abilities and talents the rest of us don't have (fixed) and that he should use those gifts wisely and strive to do his best (growth). But haven't I really said that his mindset is fixed then? Huh. Confusing.
I think as an individual I would like to think that not tracking would work and allow everyone to grow and achieve at their own pace and ability level. But as an educator and a parent I don't think I believe that works best for all kids. Being able to tailor my lesson and the pacing of my lesson works best if like students are grouped together. Again I'm loving the book contents and the discussion boards making me think about these things!

This whole idea that IQ is not fixed but able to grow? Mind blowing. I need to find studies that prove or disprove that. Maybe my idea of what the IQ test tests is just wrong. As far as I know I've never taken it nor has my son. My son has been labeled gifted (not bragging, not even humble bragging just trying to raise a question). School and information in general comes easy to him. I've often wondered if taking the IQ test would be beneficial. What if he tested high? Would he aspire to prove worthy of the number? What if he tested average after being told his 17 years how above average he is? I really thought about this last year as he was faced with the ACT test. Again what if he tested average on a test that = $ for college. My husband and I talked about our scores. I had no idea what my ACT score was (it's a number and I'm not 'good' at those) my husband knew exactly how he scored 20 years ago. So we looked them up.... mine was not great, his was average. I was shocked! I really thought I had done better. Maybe I thought that because I had bought in to what I thought that score meant. Changed my expectations for my son. And sadly my view of myself. Really? After 20 years and numerous degrees I still let those scores and labels define me? Yep.

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

You didn't make the cut

How do you explain to someone that you needed to make some changes in your life and they didn't make the cut?
There is no one thing just the accumulation of acts that were evidence of an unhealthy relationship. A litany of acts that if said aloud sound petty but when pulled together show a disregard my feelings and I no longer want to participate in the relationship. For years my friends ask why? Why do you allow that to happen? Why are you choosing to spend time with that person who talks to you in such a manner? I've finally decided there is no good answer so I'm choosing not to anymore. 

Tuesday, November 3, 2015

Teachers need more...

I think there's probably a list out there somewhere...
Things teachers can not have too many of.
1- Holiday decorations such as witches' hats or Christmas posters
2- Writing utensils- pens or pencils or markers or crayons. These things grow legs and walk out every time I turn my back.
3- Post it Notes- See #2.





Sunday, November 1, 2015

Nov 1st thoughts

When I woke up this morning I had very little plans for the day and at some point I was thinking what a perfect day it was turning out to be... Harbor and I went to Elevation Community Church​ where I stopped to get a coffee at our church cafe- flavor of the day, Buckeye, made by a young coffee barista who did a fabulous job with a smile- then we filled in at the nursery where 3 teens and 2 adults cared for 7 little tykes-1 the son of 2 former Blan students, I love that. Then we headed to Milford, Harbor driving me (I hate to drive) Panera for lunch, and stopped for an oil change and a few groceries. Then we stopped by Miami Meadows, Harbor threw a few casts out while I read. Wasn't the weather beautiful today? On to the house where he barely made it to the couch and promptly fell asleep as teens are known to do at the drop of a hat while I watched TV/crafted/cruised social media. He had a physical Friday and got a clean bill of health and a geesh that kid is growing from his Dr. Thank the Lord. The dogs stretched out and enjoyed the bones we picked up with the groceries. The only thing missing  was John... then he came in from a fishing tournament and also barely made it to the chair before crashing. I love when we finally all make our way home and everybody gets to relax and recharge for the week ahead. Even if having everyone under the same roof usually means most of us are sleeping at the time I really, really count these moments as sacred time because my boy is now 17.

Bub has picked up the habit of saying I'm sour about....